One of the things that affects people with fear of intimacy is the difficulty of getting into sexual relationships, because sex can often seem like an embarrassing and awkward subject.

However one of the great things that the Internet has provided is a means for people to connect with each other and discuss these problems in Internet forums.

In addition, of course, one of the other things that the Internet provides is a number of programs which have been written by relationship experts to give people advice about how to deal with certain problems they face: getting into relationship, or dealing with relationship breakups, or sexual difficulties, for example. This avoids the need to see a counselor or therapist in person.

Let’s not overlook the amazing benefit that these online resources can provide for people who would find it difficult to talk face to face about intimate matters, and for those who seek a relationship.

(The need for relationship is strong in all of us, regardless of the level of comfort we have with intimacy.)

Now I’m not seeking to make light of these problems, because I do think they are very serious and sometimes can inhibit people’s lives in a major way.

Our need for the love of another

On the other hand, by using an Internet program you can avoid the difficulty of speaking to a counselor or therapist in person, while at the same time getting some seriously good advice about how to deal with issues.

Relationships: dedication and effort makes them succeed

One of the things that matters here is personal discipline and dedication to applying the solutions you discover online to your own particular problems.

However, I can’t help you with that!

One of the difficulties you will face in dealing with any emotional or psychological problem is being able to incorporate the knowledge you get from an Internet program into your everyday life.

Let’s consider for a moment the issue of people who have broken up after a relationship has ended because they are not able to establish intimacy with another person or because they’re not comfortable with intimacy.

Relationship repair is one of the most necessary things for anybody, because the pain of breakup can be so great, leaving in its wake anger, sadness, guilt fear and shame.

I know only too well, having counseled people who have broken up with their partners for many years now, how serious a relationship breakup can actually be in terms of a person’s lowered self-esteem confidence and happiness.

It’s perhaps inevitable that once a relationship has broken up, one or both partners suffers another blow to their confidence around the area of intimacy.

So what I recommend is that if you’re an a relationship that’s ended, and you are looking to establish a new relationship, or if you’re looking to find a way of bringing an old relationship back together, read this: how to get your ex back.

This site provides all kinds of suggestions about what you should do (and what you should not do!) if you’re trying to establish a relationship (or re-establish a relationship).

For example, should you contact or your ex partner within a period of 30 days or wait longer? The website addresses all such questions and issues, and tells you why these rules – if indeed they are “rules” – have been proposed, and why they could well be broken in individual cases.

At the end of the day, being able to conduct a relationship with another human being is all about emotional maturity. Sure it is, and it’s also necessary for two partners to see the similarities in each other, and to understand they are more important than their differences.

Relationships Work Because Of Effort 

And needless to say, it’s also about finding a partner who you can truly love with your heart open and making yourself vulnerable to them. This requires trust. Establishing trust, building intimacy, eventually falling in love are all aspects of relationship success.

Feel The Fear

It could well be, therefore, that the first thing you need to do is to allow yourself to explore the possibility of feeling the fear that you live with and going into it totally, exploring it to the full, letting it take over your soul, and finding that you can actually come out the other side without suffering unduly.

This is the area of the Magician Archetype, where experiencing transformation is possible – indeed probable.

You see, the Magician Archetype (or rather the energy of the magician), is mainly exemplified in the human body as the energy of fear, and this is a gateway to transformation.

It could well be that your fear is an ally rather than an enemy, and it may help you to find a way through pervasive fear (which stops you doing things) to an emotional place where your confidence is much greater and you find renewed vitality and happiness in life.

In any event, if you are experiencing fear of intimacy in your life, I suggest you work on it by examining the Magician archetype in you.

You may wish to see a counselor to explore how you could go through your fears of intimacy,  sex and intimate relationships, so as to come out the other side, hopefully able to conduct a relationship with another human being….

….. and experience all the joys and rewards of relationship which accrue naturally.

After all, being in an intimate relationship is a natural aspect of humanity, and you have as much right as anybody else to establish a relationship and be happy in it.

Needless to say, you also have the right to establish a sexual relationship and enjoy your sexuality to the full without shame or guilt. Such is the reward of coming through fear to confidence.