I just wanted say little bit about the coital alignment technque, because this appears to have achieved widespread popularity due to various articles in the likes of Men’s Health which appeared in January 2017.

As a result of this, the coital alignment technique website has received many tens of thousands of visitors – testifying to the intense interest in improved lovemaking techniques.

But the problem, as always with the coital alignment technique, is that although people are interested in achieving its stated outcome – female orgasm during lovemaking – the reality is that very few people seem to be able to adopt it successfully.

Now this may be because the complicated instructions don’t lend themselves to people’s understanding, or it may just be because people are too impatient to take the time and trouble to learn the technique.

We usually have sex in a modality of male thrusting, summed up in the depiction of traditional sex as the man on top, thrusting into the woman.

There’s a patriarchal assumption here which is that sex is about the man’s pleasure, that he needs to thrust into the woman, to “take her”, while she lies there, passively yielding to his advances.

It’s not a very good dynamic to feel wholehearted and enthusiastic about sex between a man and woman.

And it’s certainly not an attitude which engenders equality of pleasure and equality of orgasmic opportunity during sex.

So with this in mind, I recommend the coital alignment technique, not just because that it is clearly a proven system for achieving female orgasm during intercourse, but because it actually redresses the balance between the male and female genders in lovemaking.

You see, the point about the coital alignment technique is that it allows men to adopt a more gentle approach to lovemaking – more gentle, that is to say than thrusting.

Thrusting can be painful for many women, even when they are well lubricated. The problem we all have, I believe, is that the ready availability of porn on the Internet has given us all an expectation of what good sex – perhaps even “normal sex” – between a man and a woman should look like.

In reality the hard and fast thrusting we see so much of, which seems to reduce female porn stars to moaning orgasmic wrecks, is far from the reality for the majority of couples in everyday life.

Conventional intercourse can be painful for a woman because of the hard thrusting that a man may be tempted to indulge in. After all, his instincts lead him to thrust in this way because Mother Nature programmed us for the most rapid ejaculation possible, simply for the survival of the species.

But it’s not much of an equal relationship for a woman if she’s suffering discomfort, if not pain during thrusting – and it’s certainly not a good indicator of the man’s concern for his partner’s well-being.

The question arises, with the more gentle approach of the coital alignment technique, does the man actually get as much satisfaction as he would during normal intercourse?

The answer that appears to be yes. Sure, it’s circumstantial evidence, but it seems that men do get as much pleasure during the coital alignment technique.

In fact many couples report that once they’ve got accustomed to the rhythm and movement that is necessary to make it work, they enjoy sex far more than they would in their normal – that is to say their previous – way of relating sexually.

So it comes highly recommended, and I suggest that if you are having any kind problems or difficulties in your sex life such as female discomfort or rapid male ejaculation, you give the method a try, so that you can actually experience the pleasures it offers for yourself.

The technique was invented in the 1970s by Edward Eichel, a sex therapist and investigator, who announced the technique to a very underwhelmed audience at a sex therapy conference in San Francisco in 1975.

And it’s certainly true that since then the coital alignment technique has been subject to much interest, but very few couples have adopted it.

One reason for this, I’m sure, is that it needs professional tuition for a couple to make it work. That is to say, a couple need to be instructed in the best way to use the coital alignment technique by a trained instructor – and as you can imagine this doesn’t happen very often.

Even nowadays when Tantra is such a big thing for so many couples, there’s definitely a lot of inhibition around sexuality and sex, and this in itself will prevent many couples finding the instruction and help they need to learn the coital alignment technique, even if it’s on offer, which seems unlikely.

Now having said all of that, those people who really care about a good sex life, and everything that comes with it (to wit the spiritual fulfilment and the physical satisfaction), should really investigate the coital alignment technique.

Research has shown that the majority of women who make love using the coital alignment technique with a partner who understands the technique will reach orgasm during intercourse.

Surely that in itself a sufficient reward for most couples to adopt the technique? It isn’t some kind of Holy Grail about what intercourse should be – it’s simply a natural result of making love in the way that perhaps once we go beyond our animal ancestry and the dynamic of hard and fast thrusting and passive yielding woman, we were actually meant to!

Whether you believe that or not is a matter of personal opinion, of course, but it’s certainly well worth noting that one of the indicators of relationship stability that has proven to be very reliable indeed is orgasm frequency for the woman during lovemaking.

It’s not entirely clear to me whether that means any kind of lovemaking or during intercourse, but one thing’s for sure – if you’re a man, and your relationship is not working as well as it might do, then the best possible thing you can do to change that would be to ensure that your partner has orgasms on a regular basis during lovemaking.

This could be either before penetration, or, preferably, during the coital alignment technique as you make love together.

By the way, it’s also very common for couples who using the coital alignment technique to achieve simultaneous orgasm – which to those who practice it does seem to be a holy grail of sexual fulfilment!